Let’s talk self-sabotaging. The silent but deadly killer to your dreams.?
The first thing you need to do is identify what those self-sabotaging behaviours are.
One of the biggest fears that people have is public speaking. So, when I run live big public speaking training events, it is so interesting to see how these self-sabotaging behaviours play out as people are confronted with their fear.
I’ve had business owners all fired up in the room to play a bigger game, sign up for a program and then never show up. That’s right. They may have booked my whole package of $8000 and then never show up to the training.
Self-sabotaging behaviours can look differently for everyone, and we may be so great at justifying these behaviours, that it takes a bit of coaching and humbleness to admit that our behaviours are not serving us. Remember, you can’t lie to yourself. You know.
There are lots of different types of self-sabotaging behaviours but here is a list that you may be familiar with.
- Being a drama Queen/King (Seeking out drama and blowing things up)
- Addictions (alcohol, drugs, sex, workaholic, shopping)
- The disease to please
- Sickness
- Not making decisions
- Victimhood
- Lying
Just to name a few.
We need to kick these self-sabotaging habits to the curb that are not serving you.
Be honest with yourself, write down a big brain dump of excuses you use and behaviours you create that sabotage your success. Be brave. Once you get them out in the open to yourself then you can deal with them.
Remember, the best coach you can ever have is the one staring back at you in the mirror every day. Build that relationship with YOU.
To your success.
Your coach,
JJ ❤?xxx
